Sunday, May 10, 2020

Memories of Aunt Fran




 Memories of Aunt Fran



Cynthia Vold Forde:  Aunt Fran was a dearly loved paternal aunt who visited my grandparents often when I was a child.   As long as I can recall she was the other half of Uncle Si.  They came as a treasured pair.

My most recent memory of Aunt Fran was this morning listening to my voice recording on a video.  Yes, that sounds just like Aunt Fran indeed.   As she aged, her voice grew hoarse and shaky, just as mine has grown shaky.

Memories of Aunt Fran stretch back decades to Grandma and Grandpa Vold’s round dining table where my grandparents dictated letters for me to write to my aunts and uncles when I was not yet twelve years old.  I understood it to be the most important job because grandma and grandpa did not write in English. I remember nothing of the content in the letters, only that I was just out of reach of the yellow glass compote where grandpa kept peppermint candies.  On one of those occasions, when it was time to address the envelope, awareness kicked in; I learned that Aunt Fran and Uncle Si had a more specific address than the Twin Cities they discussed, instead, they lived in St. Paul.  Everybody called my dad Paul, so it was puzzling to think he might have had something to do with Aunt Fran living in a town with his name.  

Frances Arlene Vold’s story begins with her birth on 6 February 1920 in Northwood, Worth County, Iowa; the Volds had recently moved from their farm south of Northwood to a large home northwest of the main street; she was likely a change of life baby.  Her mother, Sithone (Tona or Susan) Turvold Vold, was forty-three years old when Fran was born.  Her father, Carl Otto Vold, was forty-four. She was welcomed into a family with two older sisters and three older brothers, creating a half-dozen Vold siblings.  Fran’s parents were first-generation Americans, speaking only Norwegian at home. Interesting that I never heard Aunt Fran speak a word of Norwegian.  


Siblings: Mabel, Fran, Alice, and Paul

The Great Depression of 1930 affected the family financially and emotionally; Grandpa Carl went to the bank to get his savings of  $10,000 from selling the farm, loaned to his best friend, the banker, Tommy Groe. The money was gone and so was the banker, where I don't know.  Grandpa was so angry, he never set foot in the church again. They sold their large house and they bought a smaller house that was under construction from his brother-in-law Iver Hopperstad for $75.00.  

Fran was baptized at First Lutheran Church in Northwood on the seventh of March 1920 (her brother Paul’s fifth birthday), and she was confirmed on the thirteenth of May 1934.  She disliked the pastor and she did not return to church.   

During high school, Fran acted as a courier between her brother, Ervin Gelnor Vold (nicknamed Paul or Ole), and my mom, Rose Arlene Miller in their budding romance.  Mom and Aunt Fran graduated from high school in May of 1937.  

My mother married my father on the fifth of September 1937, and Aunt Fran joined her siblings working in the Twin Cities where she met Simon Pepin Meyer. Simon was born, 4 Jun 1914, Havre, Hill County, Montana, the only grandson of Simon Pepin, the wealthy founder of Havre.  

My favorite memory of the Uncle Si part of their duo was the eye-opening stories he told of Indian lore, making us blood sisters of the Cree Indian Tribe.  Of course, that included a treasure map that just blew into his window one night; it came from the Indians.  And our adventure began following the map to discover coins in a hollowed-out tree in Central Park.  My sisters and I had a three-way split of $3.57, which meant we should have a shopping trip to Albert Lea, Minnesota on the bus to spend our money on purses and to learn how to eat with fine manners at a Chinese restaurant.

In 1952, my parents, sisters, and I traveled to California with Fran and Si in a very crowded Buick that indeed hilarious stories, but the best was stopping in Las Vegas in the middle of the night.  Mom, Dad, and Uncle Si went into the casino for a very short time, leaving aunt Fran with three little girls. Only, the gamblers did not stay a brief time.  If Fran was not happy about that, she was especially upset when a woman accosted us on the street, “What are you doing with your children out at three in the morning?”

Aunt Fran and Si moved to California shortly after that trip. Si loved to gamble and died doing that 27 Dec 1975, Las Vegas, Clark County, Nevada.  He is buried in Calvary Cemetery in Havre.  I visited Fran not long after she was widowed when she gave me grandpa and grandma’s wedding photo.  It is a treasured gift.

So was the gift of Aunt Fran's time.  Aunt Fran and I had a delightful time touring Norway in 1995, and she spent two wonderful weeks at my ranch in Texas in 2001. She died on 25 February 2003; she is buried next to Si in Calvary Cemetery.

Bonnie Vold Baker shares her memories: “I remember as Cynthia did all the fun treasure hunts along the river behind our house. Si loved to take us shopping and he bought me my first “can-can” and I just loved it. When we moved to Glendale Ca in 1957 Fran and Si lived there in an apartment with a pool. We loved to go swimming there.  One of the fondest memories is when they took me to Las Vegas and I bought this strapless dress with a full skirt and Si said it made me look too young but I wore it anyway and they couldn’t take me into the gambling areas because I was always asked for ID.   After getting married and Si’s passing, we saw Fran a lot. If we went to Glendale, we always took Fran to her special restaurant - we’d laugh, and she loved her cc/7 as a cocktail. We had a ball with her - Merrilee might tell you a funny story at Thanksgiving and we’re again laughing - oh well I’ll tell it and I laughed so hard I couldn’t control it and there was a little puddle on the floor. Well Merrilee knew and we could not stop laughing over that - so upstairs I went to change clothes and Fran never did get it what happened. Oh, so many stories… we miss them both!!”

Merrilee Vold Reid says, “Aunt Fran was one special woman! She was such a lady and with such class.  I would not put her in a category with a typical “aunt”.  She was like a girlfriend that you would laugh and giggle with and share stories. We had many moments where we did just that. She was so easy to giggle and laugh and she so enjoyed watching us girls grow up.  My favorite memory, out of many, was when Bonnie and I picked her up at her apartment and flew her up to Las Vegas to celebrate her 80th Birthday. She absolutely loved to Las Vegas and spent so much time there with Uncle Si before his passing.  We went from hotel to hotel up and down the strip... Caesars, Bellagio, New York New York, the Venetian all by limousine, had a fabulous lunch at the Paris Hotel, dinner at the Bellagio, and were able to slip in a gondola ride.  We flew back home at 9 o’clock at night. Aunt Fran fared much better than either Bonnie or me. We were exhausted and she was ready to go even when we arrived home!”

Jennifer Ruprecht Gilbertson remembers Mom (Mae) was living with Aunt Frans's family for part of her childhood.  Aunt Fran was her aunt.  My grandma was Aunt Frans's oldest sister, Mae Vold.  Mom was born on June 24, 1924.  Aunt Fran was a very important member of our family.  I remember many visits to our home in White Bear Lake from Aunt Fran and Uncle Si.  We celebrated many holidays together and Diane and I were lucky to have spent overnights in their apartment.  We always had a wonderful time going to special places and fancy restraints.  We would travel to Northwood to visit the Vold family.  We were so sad to hear they were moving to California so we couldn't see them as often.  One year we drove to California with our family to visit.  That was a big trip for our family.  We had a grand visit and saw many attractions.  Aunt Fran loved to eat out, but she was a good cook too.  She was a gentle mentor, an easy giggler, and cried easily in silliness and joy.  I remember her feminine manner, her soft blonde hair, her attention to detail.  She had style and grace for us to follow.  To remember her brings such heartfelt memories.

Diane Ruprecht Johnson remembers spending alternate weekends with Aunt Fran and Uncle Si, too, plus the many trips they made to California to visit that marvelous couple so adored and loved.  


















Sunday, April 19, 2020

Easter 1 2020

Sunday Offering: 
“A few years ago, I wrote, somewhat facetiously, that the Church should close all programs for a year and simply teach people to pray. It seems to me we may unintentionally have just such an opportunity right now, although I sincerely hope it won’t last a year!” Richard Rohr
And pray we do, for the millions sorely affected by the virus in any way. In this manner of prayer we are in oneness with the suffering. 
Abba, Father, you hear our sighs, our groans, the words that struggle to be spoken, asking you to meet the needs of all those suffering. Give our heath care workers strength, Comfort those who mourn, bring healing to the afflicted, give wisdom and courage to our leaders. Bless this land with your presence in us and through us. 
Amen.

Easter Sunday

Saturday, April 11, 2020

Holy Saturday – Love covers a multitude of sins.

Holy Saturday – Love covers a multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:1-8
4:1 Since therefore Christ suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same intention (for whoever has suffered in the flesh has finished with sin),

4:2 so as to live for the rest of your earthly life no longer by human desires but by the will of God.

4:3 You have already spent enough time in doing what the Gentiles like to do, living in licentiousness, passions, drunkenness, revels, carousing, and lawless idolatry.

4:4 They are surprised that you no longer join them in the same excesses of dissipation, and so they blaspheme.

4:5 But they will have to give an accounting to him who stands ready to judge the living and the dead.

4:6 For this is the reason the gospel was proclaimed even to the dead, so that, though they had been judged in the flesh as everyone is judged, they might live in the spirit as God does.

4:7 The end of all things is near; therefore be serious and discipline yourselves for the sake of your prayers.

4:8 Above all, maintain constant love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins.

The scripture calls us to obedience, to no longer live by human desire.  Besides, we have already done enough of that, and it doesn’t satisfy the spirit.  During my year of internship at Grace Lutheran Church in Houston, I was captivated by the writings of Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the German theologian who was martyred for his faith on 9 April 1944.  I read his works in their entirety from his earliest to his last.  His writing changed overtime; he matured, but the message stayed the same; his call to discipleship spoke to my soul. 
Bonhoeffer writes extensively of the call to obedience in his most famous work, The Cost of Discipleship, first published in 1939.  Bonhoeffer's major issue is that of cheap grace. This is grace that has become so watered down that it no longer resembles the grace of the New Testament, the costly grace of the Gospels.
By the phrase cheap grace, Bonhoeffer means the grace which is the intellectual assent to a doctrine without a real transformation in the sinner's life. Bonhoeffer says of cheap grace: It is the preaching of forgiveness without the requisite repentance, baptism without church discipline, Communion without confession, absolution without personal confession. Cheap grace is grace without discipleship, grace without the cross.  
Real grace, Bonhoeffer writes, will cost me my life - yes, me, Cynthia, my life.  Yes, I continue hear that call.  Here I am, Lord.  And Christ whispers words for my many failures:   I Peter, 4:8 Above all, maintain constant love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins.  Love of God and love of Christ satisfies the spirit; nothing else provides fulfillment.




Good Friday – It is finished.

Good Friday – It is finished.
“Father, into thy hands I commit my spirit!”
Luke 23:44-48 RSV
44 It was now about the sixth hour, and there was darkness over the whole land until the ninth hour, 45 while the sun’s light failed; and the curtain of the temple was torn in two. 46 Then Jesus, crying with a loud voice, said, “Father, into thy hands I commit my spirit!” And having said this he breathed his last. 47 Now when the centurion saw what had taken place, he praised God, and said, “Certainly this man was innocent!” 48 And all the multitudes who assembled to see the sight, when they saw what had taken place, returned home beating their breasts. 49 And all his acquaintances and the women who had followed him from Galilee stood at a distance and saw these things.
"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" Matthew 27:46 and Mark 15:34
This was the only expression of Jesus in the Gospels of Matthew and Mark. Both Gospels related that it was in the ninth hour, after 3 hours of darkness, that he cried out this fourth word. The ninth hour was three o'clock in Judea. Jesus of Nazareth fulfills the Messianic prophecy of the Suffering Servant of the Lord (Isaiah 53:12, Mark 15:28, Luke 24:46). After the fourth Word, Mark related with a horrible sense of finality, "And Jesus uttered a loud cry, and breathed his last" (Mark 15:37).

Meditate on the words of Jesus. Read the scripture several times. What cries out to you?  I am struck by his anguished tone.  He feels separated from his Father. This cry is from the painful heart of the human Jesus who must feel deserted by His Father and the Holy Spirit, not to mention his earthly companions the disciples, who "all left him and fled" (Matthew 26:56, Mark 14:50). Have you known such separation from God?  As if to emphasize his loneliness, Mark (15:40) even has his loved ones "looking on from afar." Jesus is now all alone, and he must face death by himself. Have you known what it is to be forsaken or abandoned by family and friends?  We now live in a secular nation many people have abandoned Jesus. For those who have ears to hear, let us pray for forgiveness for turning away, and for those who are suffering. 
Almighty ever-living God,

refuge of those who suffer,
look with compassion upon the afflictions of your children
who suffer due to this pandemic;
alleviate the suffering of the sick,
give strength to those who care for them,
and welcome into your peace those who have died,
and while this tribulation lasts,
grant that we may find consolation in your mercy
Through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Holy Thursday – This is My Body This is My Blood For YOU

Holy Thursday – This is My Body This is My Blood For YOU

Lutherans believe in the real presence of the body and blood of Christ in the Eucharist, that the body and blood of Christ are "truly and substantially present in, with and under the forms" of the consecrated bread and wine (the elements), so that communicants actually eat and drink the holy body and blood of Christ.  We treat the consecrated bread and wine with reverence.  We meditate on this scripture:

Matthew 26:26-28 Revised Standard Version (RSV)
26 Now as they were eating, Jesus took bread, and blessed, and broke it, and gave it to the disciples and said, “Take, eat; this is my body.” 27 And he took a cup, and when he had given thanks he gave it to them, saying, “Drink of it, all of you; 28 for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins. 

If we eat and drink the holy body and blood of Jesus Christ, does this not mean that our bodies are living temples? Should we not treat our bodies then with the reverence due a temple of Christ?  This is a critical question for today because people with compromised immune systems are dying from Coronavirus, whereas those with healthy bodies are much less likely to die.  Are our bodies compromised or consecrated?  Again, meditate on this scripture:

Mark 14:22-26 Revised Standard Version (RSV)
22 And as they were eating, he took bread, and blessed, and broke it, and gave it to them, and said, “Take; this is my body.” 23 And he took a cup, and when he had given thanks he gave it to them, and they all drank of it. 24 And he said to them, “This is my blood of the[a]covenant, which is poured out for many. 25 Truly, I say to you, I shall not drink again of the fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it new in the kingdom of God.”

Here is short a list of things we can eliminate to treat our bodies as consecrated:
Smoking cigarettes and pot (which compromise lungs), 
Metabolic syndrome (a fatty liver cannot keep you healthy),
White sugar and white flour (neither are healthy choices),
High blood pressure (primarily caused by salt in processed foods),
And the list goes on and on, and we all have been told the entire list many times.

And there is a different list of healthy choices which we have also heard:
Fresh fruits and vegetables,
Whole grain products and oatmeal,
Beans, legumes, brown rice,
Fish, chicken, turkey,
And, of course, there is another scripture to meditate upon:

Luke 22:19-20 Revised Standard Version (RSV)
19 And he took bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body which is given for you. Do this in remembrance of me.” 20 And likewise the cup after supper, saying, “This cup which is poured out for you is the new covenant in my blood. 

So, we can elect to hear the admonitions and make changes to treat our bodies with the reverence they deserve,
Or we can continue as usual and hope that our badly compromised immune systems will survive when we get the coronavirus.
This scripture was so important that it is repeated yet again:


1 Corinthians 11:23-25 Revised Standard Version (RSV)
23 For I received from the Lord what I also delivered to you, that the Lord Jesus on the night when he was betrayed took bread, 24 and when he had given thanks, he broke it, and said, “This is my body which is given for you. Do this in remembrance of me.” 25 In the same way also the cup, after supper, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.”

The final meditation is a bit different:
Coronavirus IS a pandemic; it will return again and again until everyone has survived or died, or we treat our bodies with holy reverence.  




Tuesday, April 7, 2020

Holy Monday, Surrender

The projected worst week of the coronavirus pandemic is coincidental during Holy Week. Panic, hysteria, blame, and anger fills the news and social media.  “This will be our Pearl Harbor,” said the Surgeon General. “Our lives will be changed forever,” said Henry Kissinger and others.  Exactly what can we do? 
What can I do?  
Think about that for a minute. Turn off the news: Words, words, words!  
Instead, find a quiet place, take time to reflect on Jesus’ surrender to a woman anointing his head with costly perfume, an act of extravagant love.   Scripture is transforming, and you can transform your experience into something more worthwhile than panic, hysteria, blame, and anger.
The Anointing at Bethany
And while he was at Bethany in the house of Simon the leper, as he sat at the table, a woman came with an alabaster flask of ointment of pure nard, very costly, and she broke the flask and poured it over his head. But there were some who said to themselves indignantly, “Why was the ointment thus wasted? For this ointment might have been sold for more than three hundred denarii,[a] and given to the poor.” And they reproached her. But Jesus said, “Let her alone; why do you trouble her? She has done a beautiful thing to me. For you always have the poor with you, and whenever you will, you can do good to them; but you will not always have me. She has done what she could; she has anointed my body beforehand for burying. And truly, I say to you, wherever the gospel is preached in the whole world, what she has done will be told in memory of her.”
Mark 14:3-9 Revised Standard Version (RSV)
Footnotes:
a.    Mark 14:5 The denarius was a day’s wage for a laborer